If there is a crisis, talk and both see the possibilities and opportunities that you can still give the relationship. If your reflection tells you that it is worth trying, then begin “together” to oxygenate the relationship and put into practice everything that can help you revive it. Of course, both must want to do it, this is a task for two.
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1. Stop romanticizing yourself, real life is not made up of fairy tales
As long as you don’t let go of the person you want to see in each other, you can’t live happily ever after. Nothing worse than idealizing a couple because they will see imperfection when they do not meet their mutual expectations and they will claim it as if the idealization had been written down in a contract of “you must make me happy being the way I want you to be” It sounds horrible! Do not you think? Forget the idea of the prince or princess and accept yourselves with the intention of adapting and making small changes to better live a life together.
2. Ask yourselves what is the project you still have in common and feed it
There are many things that they have surely left on pause because they are arguing or trying to change the other, thinking that this way the relationship will be perfect. Better focus on building something together, it can be a small business, a vacation project, a home or doing things that you both are excited about. They are together for a reason, remember what brought them together because it is always based on the admiration they have for each other.
3. Go on your honeymoon again and do what you didn’t do the first time
A crisis is an opportunity to recycle, this means putting aside what does not work and keeping what does nourish them and make them grow as a couple. If you recycle the relationship from the beginning, you can start on your honeymoon, traveling where you may not have been the first time, going on adventures you may not have experienced, or fulfilling wishes that were put on hold. It’s a good starting point that would live up to the saying of a clean slate.
4. Have moments of many hugs and progressive rapprochement, contact is essential to revive the relationship
Contact revives love because being close helps the attachment hormone to bring them back together as at the beginning. This determines that they want to share moments being close, it helps them to value and miss each other when they are distant. For this reason, the loving approach, the hug or even the one that you put your head on their chest, helps them to resurrect what they believe is lost. Start small so that you do not feel invaded in your space, especially if you come from a crisis.
5. Live moments together where you can laugh out loud, this will link you much more
Laughter is one of the best medicines for physical, mental and emotional health. Many experts on the subject recommend it. Laughing generates endorphins, pleasure and taste for the moment. If they laugh together they will be able to have a pleasant moment that helps them to see the other side of the coin, to see that they are capable of sharing in joy and that the bad spell they are experiencing requires a little on their part to be able to save it
6. Have a clue or signal to withdraw when you both know you are going to explode
A very big problem in many relationships is being pushed to the limit without holding back. Faced with a crisis, they need to make a non-aggression pact and appeal to the responsibility that both have as adults to be able to manage their bad mood or strong character. It is a decision that would lead to each one taking charge of not exploding so as not to hurt or hurt. Therefore, it is important to withdraw in time before the conflict consumes them. Now calmer, talk and reach agreements.
7. Cook together, prepare a dinner to celebrate your love
I am not proposing you just any dinner, I am proposing one where you can talk about how valuable you are as a couple, the things you admire about each other, what you saw in your eyes or smiles for the first time, what you have achieved together. Then choose to dance to songs that remind you of how important you are to each other or dedicate a new tune.
8. There are situations where taking time out could work
The emotional respite and the need to decontaminate from the crisis may require putting some distance in between. More than just being surprised, it has to do with lowering your guard, reflecting calmly and making a wise decision. They could even rekindle sexual encounters because they would miss each other.